There are so many reasons why couples break up. Personal, family-related or sometimes just plain stupid reason. But whatever it may be, there's gotta be one. You may not understand it now but you have to accept the fact that they choose to end things with you, to leave. And sometimes you can't do anything about it. It's their choice, their decision.
Nobody said it's easy to move on. But nobody also said that it's impossible. Yes, it's hard but in time you'll eventually learn how to let go and realize that sometimes there are people who don't belong in your life anymore. So here are the things you need to do so you can finally move on from your past (him).
*Throw everything that reminds you of him.
Gifts, love letters, photos, his shirt. These things are memories and as long as they are around, it's impossible for you to erase him from your head. Throw them away or donate them in the charity. It'll make you feel better because at least you know that they go to a good cause.
*Eat ice cream. A lot of ice cream!
Ice cream always help. And who doesn't love ice cream anyway? Talk about him one last time over ice cream and a good cry with you bestfriends but make sure to forget about him after. There's nothing ice cream can't solve, they say.
*Go out more, meet new people.
Meeting new people is good because it will distract you from thinking about him. Making new friends will help you create new memories that can replace the ones from your past. Especially the ones about him. So don't just stay home and go have dates with your bestfriends.
*Don't stalk his Facebook/Instagram account.
It won't help. It will only make you bitter. And you don't want to be the creepy ex girlfriend who stalks her ex so don't. Just don't!
*Ignore things that have meaning to you when you were still together.
Anniversary date, his favorite band and places you used to go to. Try not to sulk when your anniversary date comes, don't turn off the radio when his favorite band is playing, don't avoid places you used to go to with him, act like they don't mean anything to you and eventually they won't anymore. It just needs a little getting used to and a little patience.
*Be open to someone new.
Say 'yes' when someone asks you to a movie. Say 'yes' when someone asks you out on a dinner. Try to open up with someone new and get to know them more. Even just as friends, they will somehow take your thoughts away from your past.
*Try not to get affected when you hear his name.
Surely he's not the only one with the name Ryan or Martin or Tom so try not to react whenever you hear his name. Better yet, think that someone might be calling for their dog or cat.
*Don't be bitter, it's not good.
When you see him again, smile and show him what he lost when he left. Don't let him get into you again and show him that you're better off without him. Smile then walk away.
*Move on.
It's hard but you have to. It may take a while but you need to. Forget about him.
If after all these you can't still let go, then you're screwed!
(Kidding! Of course it takes time. But the best way to move on is to find someone new.)
